An unexpected connection…
There is a piece in our range that I have always admired…
It would feel like magic every time I held it, polishing it carefully into its full glory before packaging it up and sending it off to all parts of the world. I would hold it with such admiration, absorbing its beauty and sass, before reminding myself that as a ‘practical girl’, it just wouldn’t suit me. You see, I am one of those gals that doesn’t care too much for fashion but rather function. If I cannot wear it day in and day out (in multiple scenarios) than I won’t call it mine. Black and grey t-shirts, a beautifully tailored black dress, comfortable jeans, plain leather boots – I love you. Bold and beautiful rings? I think not.
But here I was, 7 months pregnant, huge and waddling off to a wedding. I needed something on my hands so I ventured up to our office in search of something beautiful.
Enter the Amethyst Cluster.
As soon as I daringly slid it onto my hand I felt safe and protected. The anxiety I felt about the social interactions to follow (total introvert here) quickly disappeared. I don’t remember too much of the evening as I virtually spent the hours to follow gazing at my hand and acknowledging my bravery for wearing something so SHINY!
I fully intended to return this piece back to the samples box and never think of it again. I am conservative with what I take, often feeling like it would be best with someone that really needs it. But once the connection was made with this ring, it could not be broken. This beauty has been on my hand ever since. It has become my physical talisman, projecting protection and strength when I have needed it most over the past few months of transition.
Transition.. So often something we realised has happened in retrospect rather than something we can see is ‘happening’ at the time.
As our little man Jude hits the 12 weeks mark, I reflect in an exhausted haze and can feel the transitions I have been through. Truth be told, there have been many. Family dynamics, releasing control over the business, relationship changes, operating in exhaustion, physical body shifts. But most of all, more major than any of these things and most unexpectedly, I have transitioned into a feminine place.
There are so many variables that lead us to where we stand. My variables had me standing in a place that I felt was really masculine; a place of dictatorship and survival. At the age of 12 I embraced the responsibility of our mentally ill mother and in that instant, suppressed all aspects of surrender and vulnerability within me. For the last 18 years I have held onto that imprint, vowing to never rely on another person for my financial security, happiness or stability. The funny thing is, I didn’t even realise just what an impenetrable masculine force I had become.
But here I am now. I have transitioned. I am currently reliant on my husband financially having handed over the VG ship to Alex to steer solo (Thank YOU Al for giving me this time). I am at the mercy of two tiny human’s demands and I have felt completely and utterly vulnerable in so many moments. What a beautiful, soft, merciful and back seat place this is to be in. But it isn’t always easy. With my guard dropped and my chest exposed, I feel unsafe in many moments of every day. And as much I love getting to know this unprotected version of myself, I still crave my old protective armour in many moments. So what is a girl to do? Turn to the physical talisman that she feels projects strength and protection of course.
Sometimes who we think we are, isn’t who we really are at all. And sometimes, the thing we think would never suit us, becomes our most important possession in the world.
Thank you Alex for designing such a beautiful piece in the Amethyst Cluster. May she walk with me always.
In the name of dealing with transition, we thought we could offer our top tips for coping with change.
It is all good to talk about an experience, but sometimes in life we just need a few practical tips to help ‘deal’ or move through a moment in time.
So, for you from Violet Gray :
1. Surround yourself with an energetic light that feels really good.
For us, we opt for Gold. It feels like a beautiful soft and shiny blanket, protecting your energy when you are feeling more vulnerable than usual. Close your eyes and take a moment to connect with a light gold ‘blanket’ or bubble. You hopefully will instantly feel more safe.
Often the easiest advice to give but the hardest to implement in our own lives. Define what fills up your energy tank and take time for that in every day. Even for just 15 minutes. It is useless to replicate the lives of others, this is about you. So connect with you and work out what that means…
Often when we are going through a transition, whether it be a physical or spiritual one, feelings of anxiety can arise in an unfamiliar space. Know that you are always safe and cared for. When we surrender to this feel with acceptance, it dissipates. When we attach it to, it strengthens. Breathe. Discomfort will pass.
Even the most horrendous of experiences can hold a positive aspect down the track. Worst case scenario, that may be gratitude for where you stand as a person today due to the personal growth you experienced then..
We are the first to reach for sugar and caffeine in difficult times but ultimately it only makes you feel less grounded. Note to self girls – put down the chocolate bar! Fresh air and movement is the best cure for releasing.